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11 Responses to 'How do you rank lessons you teach your child?'

1. desmeran - July 24th, 2010 at 5:19 am

   I couldn’t care less if my kids have premarital ***. I would like for them not to have pre-adult *** if I can help it, and I would like even more for them not to have unprotected *** until they’re prepared to be a parent.

   The last of those falls under “safety” in my mind (along with looking both ways before you cross the street) and ranks at the top as a category. After that integrity is very important to us as a family — both in terms of being true to others and to oneself. Kindness, compassion, being a good person, responsibility and so on are all obviously very important to me, too. Something like manners I think is merely a subcategory of responsibility and kindess.

2. Ranchmom1 - July 26th, 2010 at 2:00 am

   This is something goes along with the day-to-day values we teach our girls. I wouldn’t say it ranks higher or lower than other lessons because each of these are important to us: Becoming a godly young woman included honesty, respectfulness, compassion, caring for others, selflessness, integrity, kindness, etc. It’s a package deal. : )

3. jen - July 26th, 2010 at 3:17 am

   I’d say it’s on the list, but not at the top.
   Number one is the Golden Rule: Treat others as you’d like to be treated. I think it’s a great rule and creates a kind and considerate way of thinking, not to mention avoids conflict.
   The things you listed are way more important to me than the premarital *** thing. I agree with Desmeran about pre-adult sex, and I’d also discourage pre-love sex, but that’s just me.

4. odysseyeclispe - July 27th, 2010 at 2:24 am

   When I have kids I think self respect and self esteem are big in my book. I want my kids to feel like they can do anything and let no one bring them down. I want to instill trust and honesty so they can talk to me about anything.

   As far as premarital ***… The first thing is that I will be very open and honest with them and not just leave it to the school and books to teach them about ***. I feel if they are in a loving committed relationship then they can make the decision they feel comfortable with. Hopefully I will have raised them to trust themselves to make those kinds of decisions.

5. melissa s - July 29th, 2010 at 1:33 pm

   I do not rank such things, I lead by example, I try to install good morals, all the things you listed are connected in one way or another, each as important as the other

6. Michelle - August 1st, 2010 at 6:06 am

   It is important, but definitely not at the top of the important list.

   Being a good person in general is at the top of my list. And I would much rather have a pregnant 16 year old who is preparing to be the best mom she can than have a 16 year old thief who spends their day finding ways to insult and hurt others.

   It’s hard to rank these things as individual words since they can all have so many degrees. I would be disappointed in my kid if she stole a pen from someone. But I would be much more upset if she told a lie that led to serious injury. On the flip side, lieing about if she already finished her homework wouldn’t be as bad as stealing someone’s rent money.

   I don’t even try to rank the lessons that I teach. Instead I try to help her find the balance that leads to making mostly good decisions in life.

7. brenniewinters - August 2nd, 2010 at 12:13 pm

   Example and friends are what they become. Most people say one thing and do another. Ever heard of the human sexuallity studies? Take a course.

8. ☺ ςђคгlเ ☺ - August 3rd, 2010 at 4:35 pm

   All lessons I teach my Sons are incredibly important to me.

   I wish to raise Gentlemen who love life, and are respect themselves and those around them.
   If they can do that, I will be proud.

   Premarital *** isn’t something I promote, but with self respect, and respect for others, I feel they will make their own decisions, right for them.

9. Not A Supermum! - August 4th, 2010 at 12:17 am

   I have no intentions of preaching pre-marital *** – for the plain and simple reason that I had *** before marriage – a lot – and not, only that, I don’t regret it. Thumbs down all you want, but I don’t in the slightest. In fact, our first daughter was flower girl at our wedding!
   I do intend to teach them about *** with respect, *** with protection and how *** is so much more fulfilling with someone you love.
   I will put *** ed reasonably high up on the priority list, but honestly, my first priority is teaching them to be respectful of others and the importance of Karma – Yes I strongly believe that what goes around comes around and I think everyone should learn about sending out positive actions and thoughts because more than likely, it will come back to you eventually.
   Honesty – yes, a huge plus in our house, I don’t like a liar (unless it’s an innocent white lie), I don’t want to raise any.

10. kraines712 - August 7th, 2010 at 5:45 am

    1. The things that will physically harm them: Don’t talk to strangers, Car / driving safety (seat belt or drinking and driving), Look both ways before crossing the street, STDs, Drugs and Alcohol, Firearm Safety, If someone tells you jump off a bridge that doesn’t mean you have to do it, etc.
    2. Respect, Honesty, Responsibility
    3. Kindness and Compassion

    Let’s face it, it’s not the end of the world to have premarital sex; even from a religious standpoint, it’s still not the end of the world. Kids are going to do what they want they want to do regardless of how much you scream, talk, or rationalize with them. This includes premarital ***. All you can do is talk openly about the subject, inform your child of all the FACTS, risks and consequences, teach them to protect themselves from STDs and pregnancy, and ask for honesty. And if you’ve done a decent job and taught the majority of the listed characteristics, your child is going to make the decision that is right for them.

11. greatprincemichael - August 9th, 2010 at 7:30 pm

    Although I agree with religious conservatives who want to challenge the youth to delay sexual activity for a while, I totally disagree with their message that a condom is a provision for sin. I send my Christian friends to the website below which debunks the whole thing against premarital *** in the Bible. That way they have no excuse not to support comprehensive *** education.

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